Back in 2003, when I was in class 5, there was this NGO that was doing awareness on teenage sex. So they had a conference and they required I think 3 representatives from our school. I thought the conference needed to be attended by class 7 and 8 girls (who were physically big) but the teacher in charge just chose me anyway together with other two girls one from class 7 and the other class 8.
The conference was happening in a place called Kolping Conference Center in Kilimambogo. We were to spend two nights there and three days. Let me tell you,😆 When we first got to the hotel, I was somehow out of place for I was so small. All the other girls from other schools there were big...they had breasts but my chest was flat😅 .
When we were given our rooms, that was the first time I saw a shower 🚿. I was like, "so here people shower in the rain?" Then the breakfast.... It was my first time to eat sausages ( where else would I have gotten sausages from in the village?" I couldn't believe that I was supposed to serve myself sausages, bread with butter. Lunch would be chicken. Anyway, the food was so good then.
Now the part that I still think about even today about the conference, is the last day in that training. We had learnt alot about abstinence and waiting for marriage to have sex (we were told that virginity is a flower and one should never let any boy deflower them for it is a special gift for the husband on the wedding night). So to crown it all, we were given some light blue cards.
The card read; I __________, Infront of my friends and family, do swear and make the commitment that I will abstain from sex untill marriage. Signed
One was supposed to fill their name on the blank space and sign at the end. I signed the card . Then I kept the card safely when I went home. I guess that was my first important document 😆.
Please don't ask me whether I kept that commitment 🤐
Anyway, looking at the current state, teenage sex is happening like never before. How are we teaching our girls abstinence? Are we telling them that they need to wait for the right time to have sex? Do we talk about it? Or do we let the girls get all kind of information out there about using emergency pills and contraceptives? Are we teaching our girls to take charge of their bodies and be responsible of how they let others treat them?
It's the high Time we let teenagers know that there's time for everything and for them is to grow and study. I always feel sad when I see a teenager's education stalled due to a pregnancy and when you dig deeper you find that she had no any guidance. Do not feel shy talking to your teenager about sex and it's consequences.
Why are you even shy talking about something that you do? If you can't, call me I will gladly do it for you.
Let's take care of our teenagers
#joyinsights
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