The relationship between a child and their parents is not economical

The term dead beat dad/mom is mostly used when a parent is not providing any financial support to their child. When one parent is considered a dead beat by the other, they are mostly alienated from the said children. 

Other parents decide to be responsible after a long period of not providing. However, the parent who has been providing for the child since birth say they don't need the help. 

Mostly you will hear parents say, especially women" I am raising these children singlehandedly without him contributing a cent. So there is no way I will allow the children see him" "I cannot allow my children to go to his family, he is a deadbeat" This continues until it becomes a power struggle between the mum and the kids as they grow and demand to see their other parent. (Especially teenagers). 

However, did you know the relationship between a parent and a child is not based on money. It is not economical. Was there any money involved in the natural coitus process you two had?? Then why do you make it about money? 

So, if he does not send money to you, but still wants the children to visit him? Why not allow them? Children need their identity. It is their right. They need to know where they came from. How their other parent is like. Before they start thinking they're the reason they were abandoned. 

Why alienate children whom you claim to love?? You're abusing them. Unless the other parent is a danger to the children , their financial contribution has nothing to do with children's  right to both parents. 

After all, there are parents who stay under the same roof but only one parent earns which means he caters all the financial needs of the children. Does it mean the other parent under that roof is not important in the child's life because they don't earn?? The same should apply to parents who don't live together.

If you're financially capable, handle all your kids financial needs. It's your responsibility. But don't use your money to alienate them from their other incapable parent. 

#joyinsights 

#intentional parenting