Tuesday, March 31, 2020

9 ways to prevent your child from becoming a sociopath

No parent would want to imagine that their child would grow up to enjoy hurting others. This is therefore an area that parents do not like to think of but sociopaths are real in our society and their journey started somewhere. Every parent therefore needs to be on the lookout so as to prevent their child from being a sociopath in future. Here are some tips a parent can use to prevent their child from becoming a sociopath.
1. Keep your child away from any kind of abuse
            Children should not be subjected to abuse of any kind. Abuse accounts to any form of violence. It can either be molesting them or children growing up with violent parents who keep on hurting their child. This kind of an exposure can make a child to grow up to be a sociopath thinking that causing other people harm is acceptable. Again, such children might grow up angry and hateful of people and might end up hurting others in future to take revenge of what happened to them when they were growing up.
2. Be an available parent
            There is nothing as important as a child having a consistent parent or guardian when they are growing up. A parent who is always there for the child gives them direction on how they are supposed to live with others. When a child grows up without a parent available for them, that child might grow up to be a sociopath. This is because no parent was there to monitor their behavior consistently while they were growing up. Children who grow up in foster care, children homes or moving from one relative to another might end up having sociopathic tendencies for they might  be dealing with anger  towards their parents for abandoning them.
3. Encourage play with peers
            This is an issue that parents need to be careful about in this 21st century parenting for we are living in a digital age. Children are exposed to mobile phones and computers as early as after birth. Parents need to be careful not to provide their children with all video games and cartoons that they want so that they don’t get out of the house. This situation deprives a child social skills for the child is always on a screen without real people. Parents should allow their children to play with peers so that they can know how to interact with real people. Children who grow up without having interaction with peers are at a high risk of becoming sociopaths since they never learnt how to co-exist with people.
4. Discover bad behavior and deal with it as soon as you notice it
            Adults who are sociopaths started by trying violence when they were growing up. Some children might enjoy torturing an animal, fighting peers, bullying peers or any other violent act. Such a child can in future become a sociopath. It is therefore important for the parent to be keen and ensure that their child is stopped from such acts of violence immediately they are noticed. If a parent is not able to deal with their child, they can seek professional intervention so as to prevent the child from enjoying hurting others in future.
5. Encourage sibling bonding
            Siblings should be the first friends a child should have while they are growing up. Sibling relation gives an opportunity for a child to learn various social skills like kindness, empathy and protecting each other. If a child cannot relate well with their siblings that child is at a higher risk of engaging in antisocial behaviors. For parents who have large families, they should be careful not to pay attention to some of the children so as the they do not feel as if they are struggling to gain their parents attention. Such children who are less supervised by their parents just because there are younger siblings to take care of, are at a higher risk of becoming sociopaths.
6. Teach your child to differentiate right from wrong
            When a child is growing, they are usually in a road to discovering things about life. With the home being the first place a child gets socialized, the parents should ensure that the child is socialized well. A parent should always make sure they are careful of what their child is doing so that they guide them accordingly. If a child does something wrong, a parent should make sure that the child is aware that they have done something wrong. This way, they will differentiate right from wrong and would refrain from hurting anyone in future.
7. Punish your child when necessary
            There are those times when a child is already aware that doing a certain act is wrong but decides to do it anyway. It is at this point that the parent should bring punishment in the picture. Punishment does not have to cause physical pain but it can also be deprivation of some privileges that a child enjoys for some time. However, parents should be careful not to punish their children without explaining to them why they are doing so for it would be considered abuse and might destroy the child.
8. Do not expose a child to inappropriate acts
            Children are not supposed to see sociopathic acts when they are growing up. Parents should be careful not to be bad examples to their children. For parents who fight or are in toxic relationships, they should be careful not to expose their inappropriate acts to their child for the child might grow up thinking hurting others is okay. Such parents should look for ways the child can be raised up somewhere else or just separate rather than live together and make their child a sociopath in future.
9. Never give up on your child
            There are those children who basically will not follow instructions even when you tell them over and over again. A parent should try and be close to such a child and praise them for the few good deeds they do other than concentrating on what they are doing wrong. This can make a child to always want to do good so as they can be praised. However, if the parent has tried all means with no success,  they should look for professional intervention to help their child.
                                                                                                     ©Joyce Mwai
Writer/ Parenting Coach/ Teenagers Mentor

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